ATK Chats Parenting Issues with CNN

Is it OK to Spy On Your Kids?

 

Spying on your kids. It’s a divisive issue. But, like it or not, monitoring your kids is all a part of parenting. I was asked by CNN’s Kelly Wallace how I felt about the issue. Here is what I said. And, below, is Kelly’s entire piece published on Cnn.com this morning. What do you think about spying on your children?

Spying. It depends on your kid and his/her age. Intellectually, I can understand the nanny cam. First time moms are anxious about leaving their precious babies with a stranger. So, the camera is more about keeping an eye on the nanny versus the baby. But, I don’t approve of spying-type cameras for older kids. There needs to be a certain level of trust established. Kids need to spread their teenage wings and start having experiences outside of the parental realm. However, if my daughter (I have two daughters, 9 and 12) started acting out in a way that signaled a problem, I would need to re-think this stance. Luckily, I haven’t had to deal with this issue. Yet.

Social media? That is another story. I prefer to use the term “monitoring.” Facebook, Instagram and Twitter are virtual feeding grounds for all types of illicit behavior. I constantly talk to my 12 year old about privacy and the presence of perverts online looking for innocent girls. I monitor her content (she’s into Instagram) but also her privacy settings to make sure that perverts (and cyber bullies) can’t access her accounts. I really believe in establishing a high level of trust. In order to have access to a phone (she claims to be the last of her friends to get a phone) my daughter had to prove that she could follow rules (my husband had her write an essay!) and commit to limits on phone/social media use. She has really followed through so I do not read her texts.

When I was a kid my parents definitely spied on us via a low-tech intercom system. HA! We always heard them tuning in and modified our conversations accordingly.

spy screenshot

Read more here

2015-01-06_11-54-07 Video from CNN.com

Tags: , , , , , , , ,

  • Digg
  • Del.icio.us
  • StumbleUpon
  • Reddit
  • Twitter
  • Facebook
  • RSS

My Cheat Sheet for Eating Healthy and Working Out After Baby

Women fantasize about leaping back into their pre-pregnancy jeans right after giving birth. I mean, celebrities do it, so why cant the average woman? Seeing A Listers supersonically whittle their waists puts enormous pressure on new moms. Truth:  stars have an army of help: nannies, personal trainers and chefs to help them get back into shape. For real women, dropping the weight take some time. As January is always about fresh starts, I penned a story for What To Expect, a cheat sheet if you will, about realistic ways to bounce back after baby. There is no secret. Its all about smart, healthy choices. I offer up some fitness regimes, recipes and nutrition tips to get you looking and feeling your best. The old adage is true. It took nine months to put on and will take nine months to take off.

READ FULL STORY HERE

Tags: , , , ,

  • Digg
  • Del.icio.us
  • StumbleUpon
  • Reddit
  • Twitter
  • Facebook
  • RSS